Energy Vampires: How to Identify and Deal With Them
Halloween’s around the corner, which makes this the perfect time of the year to blog about how to identify, deal with, and protect yourself from energy vampires. We like to believe that vampires don’t exist, and they don’t in theory. But energy vampires do exist, and if you don’t know how to identify, deal with, and protect yourself from them they’ll suck the life force right out of you. I love a good vampire movie and series. My favorite modern vampire series are CW’s Vampire Diaries and The Originals, a Vampire Diaries spinoff (No one’s paying me to say this but if you’re interested, both series are available on NETFLIX).…
How to Increase Healthy Self-Esteem Through Journaling
If you have low self-esteem, you know that it’s not easy putting feelings and thoughts into words. As a matter of fact, it’s pretty hard especially when you can’t pinpoint why you’re feeling and thinking as you do. The good news is that you can increase healthy self-esteem through journaling, and discover the reasons why you feel and think as you do. In last week’s post, I discussed how romantic rejection can harm self-esteem and I provided some strategies for overcoming it, and for building healthy self-esteem and resilience. This week, I want to provide one more strategy for increasing healthy self-esteem: Journaling. An effective tool for increasing healthy self-esteem, and…
Rejection and It’s Effect on Self-Esteem: Is It Something We Should Take Personally?
Fear of rejection, especially in matters of the heart, is a normal reaction. Rejection can harm self-esteem, but is it something we should take so personally? When the fear of rejection and low-self-esteem are deeply rooted, we have twenty thousand reasons for why we can’t muster the courage to ask someone out or accept an invitation to go out. Moreover, we have a hard time believing that someone is sincerely interested in us. Sometimes we go as far as sabotaging relationships before they have a chance to blossom. Hey, the other shoe’s going to drop and we’re going to get hurt anyway. Might as well help it along, right?…
What Is Emotional Cheating? Can Relationships Survive It?
What is emotional cheating? Some people do it every day. Yet most will tell you that what they’re doing isn’t emotional cheating. It’s just a friendship with a person of the opposite sex that they enjoy talking to and spending time with. For many, including a lot of men, there’s no such thing as emotional cheating. If there aren’t two bodies going at it in full-blown sexual ecstasy then it’s nothing. Just two people shooting the breeze, they say. Might be true. Men and women can be friends, only that in some of these friendships there’s a whole lot of sharing of the problems that exist in the relationship with the…
Why Are We So Negative: It’s an Ancestral Gene Thing
Have you ever asked yourself why we’re so negative? Would you believe me if I said that it’s an ancestral gene thing? Trust me, you want to stay with me until the end of this post. If you tend to gravitate to negative thinking, it’ll make a whole lot of sense to you after you read all of the ways through to the end. Working with people, women, in particular, I get a lot of questions regarding why it is that we can receive 99 compliments, but focus mostly on the one negative thing someone says about our appearance, work, speeches, writing, etc. Is it lack of self-confidence or low-esteem? …
Help! The Man That I Love is a Narcissist: Surviving a Toxic Relationship
I never imagined that I’d one day say, “Help! The Man I Love is a Narcissist.” But I did. I loved a narcissist, and it took me a good while to realize that. As a result, my life was a never-ending emotional roller coaster ride; a continuous state of imbalance where I was left holding the short end of the stick. He had a way of draining me of my energy, and making me feel insecure and overall bad about myself. That should’ve been my biggest clue that I was in a toxic relationship. HELP! THE MAN I LOVE IS A NARCISSIST “I think the man I love is a…
When Loving You Means Learning to Love You
When Loving You Means Learning to Love You wasn’t my blog topic for this week. I was going to write about narcissistic men and their crazy foolishness, but then a good friend of mine called and we started talking about haircuts. She told me that she hasn’t had a sassy, sexy haircut in over two decades because of a negative comment someone close to her made about her last haircut. That negative words could impact a woman’s decision to do something to improve herself that brought her joy annoyed the hell out of me. It made me think about women and self-love, and the fact that most of us don’t…
How to Deal With an Ex-Wife From Hell When It’s Over But It’s Not
Dealing with an ex-wife from hell when it’s over but it’s not, can send even the sanest person over the edge. If you’re a new partner or spouse and have dealt with or are dealing with this type of situation, this post is for you. A lot of us have known, heard of, witnessed, or been a victim of an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife from hell who can’t accept the fact that their exes have moved on. You know exactly who I’m talking about. They’re the ones who withhold visitation if the new partner is around. The ones who go out of their way to let the new partners know they…
10 Ways to Live an Authentic Life
Living an authentic life is key to your success and overall emotional, spiritual, and physical well-being, but not everyone knows what it takes to live authentically or where to begin. This post provides readers with 10 ways to start living an authentic life now. If you’re not sure about whether or not you’re living an authentic life, take a moment to answer the following questions: Do you ever feel restless, like there’s something you’re supposed to be doing, but you can’t figure out what it is? Do you ever feel like pieces of you somehow got lost in the shuffle and no matter how much you try, you can’t seem…
