How to Build Trust After Being Cheated On
Can trust be built after you’ve been cheated on? That’s probably the first question we ask ourselves when we find out that we’ve been cheated on. First, because we can’t shut love on and off like a light switch. Feelings are still there. Despite the pain of betrayal, whether we want it to be present or not, there’s always a glimmer of hope. Second, because we know that without trust there isn’t a chance in hell for a healthy relationship. Toxicity, yes. They’ll be plenty of that. But a healthy, loving and thriving relationship? Sorry, not happening. FOR SOME, BUILDING TRUST AFTER CHEATING IS A MOOT POINT Some people believe…
What To Do When You’re Ghosted
Alas, you meet the man of your dreams, or so you thought until he ghosted you. He just up and disappeared after a few months of dating, and of telling you that you were the best thing that ever happened to him. Moreover, he used the three sacred words that turn every woman’s world upside down, and right side up again. Everything about him led you to believe that he was the one. Then all of a sudden “poof,” he did an Invisible Man act on you. He Couldn’t Possibly Be Ghosting You Or could he? You called, texted, instant messaged, and emailed him. Additionally, you contacted his friends and…
Energy Vampires: How to Identify and Deal With Them
Halloween’s around the corner, which makes this the perfect time of the year to blog about how to identify, deal with, and protect yourself from energy vampires. We like to believe that vampires don’t exist, and they don’t in theory. But energy vampires do exist, and if you don’t know how to identify, deal with, and protect yourself from them they’ll suck the life force right out of you. I love a good vampire movie and series. My favorite modern vampire series are CW’s Vampire Diaries and The Originals, a Vampire Diaries spinoff (No one’s paying me to say this but if you’re interested, both series are available on NETFLIX).…
How to Increase Healthy Self-Esteem Through Journaling
If you have low self-esteem, you know that it’s not easy putting feelings and thoughts into words. As a matter of fact, it’s pretty hard especially when you can’t pinpoint why you’re feeling and thinking as you do. The good news is that you can increase healthy self-esteem through journaling, and discover the reasons why you feel and think as you do. In last week’s post, I discussed how romantic rejection can harm self-esteem and I provided some strategies for overcoming it, and for building healthy self-esteem and resilience. This week, I want to provide one more strategy for increasing healthy self-esteem: Journaling. An effective tool for increasing healthy self-esteem, and…
Rejection and It’s Effect on Self-Esteem: Is It Something We Should Take Personally?
Fear of rejection, especially in matters of the heart, is a normal reaction. Rejection can harm self-esteem, but is it something we should take so personally? When the fear of rejection and low-self-esteem are deeply rooted, we have twenty thousand reasons for why we can’t muster the courage to ask someone out or accept an invitation to go out. Moreover, we have a hard time believing that someone is sincerely interested in us. Sometimes we go as far as sabotaging relationships before they have a chance to blossom. Hey, the other shoe’s going to drop and we’re going to get hurt anyway. Might as well help it along, right?…
The Truth Behind Why Narcissistic Men Can’t Let Go of Their Exes
In my blog post, Help! The Man I Love is a Narcissist, a reader left a comment asking why her narcissist boyfriend can’t stop loving his ex-wife and love her. I thought about the countless other women asking about the truth behind why narcissistic men can’t let go of their exes and the importance of answering the question. If you’re a regular reader, you know that this is a lifestyle blog. The majority of what I’ve shared and plan to share with you is based on my personal experiences. But if you’ve read Welcome to BlogUtopia, you also know that I said that this would be OUR journey. That’s why…
Why Are We So Negative: It’s an Ancestral Gene Thing
Have you ever asked yourself why we’re so negative? Would you believe me if I said that it’s an ancestral gene thing? Trust me, you want to stay with me until the end of this post. If you tend to gravitate to negative thinking, it’ll make a whole lot of sense to you after you read all of the ways through to the end. Working with people, women, in particular, I get a lot of questions regarding why it is that we can receive 99 compliments, but focus mostly on the one negative thing someone says about our appearance, work, speeches, writing, etc. Is it lack of self-confidence or low-esteem? …
Help! The Man That I Love is a Narcissist: Surviving a Toxic Relationship
I never imagined that I’d one day say, “Help! The Man I Love is a Narcissist.” But I did. I loved a narcissist, and it took me a good while to realize that. As a result, my life was a never-ending emotional roller coaster ride; a continuous state of imbalance where I was left holding the short end of the stick. He had a way of draining me of my energy, and making me feel insecure and overall bad about myself. That should’ve been my biggest clue that I was in a toxic relationship. HELP! THE MAN I LOVE IS A NARCISSIST “I think the man I love is a…
When Loving You Means Learning to Love You
When Loving You Means Learning to Love You wasn’t my blog topic for this week. I was going to write about narcissistic men and their crazy foolishness, but then a good friend of mine called and we started talking about haircuts. She told me that she hasn’t had a sassy, sexy haircut in over two decades because of a negative comment someone close to her made about her last haircut. That negative words could impact a woman’s decision to do something to improve herself that brought her joy annoyed the hell out of me. It made me think about women and self-love, and the fact that most of us don’t…
How to Deal With an Ex-Wife From Hell When It’s Over But It’s Not
Dealing with an ex-wife from hell when it’s over but it’s not, can send even the sanest person over the edge. If you’re a new partner or spouse and have dealt with or are dealing with this type of situation, this post is for you. A lot of us have known, heard of, witnessed, or been a victim of an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife from hell who can’t accept the fact that their exes have moved on. You know exactly who I’m talking about. They’re the ones who withhold visitation if the new partner is around. The ones who go out of their way to let the new partners know they…
